A person should not live in fear.
A fear that destroys any ability to walk into the journey.
A small step out is better than no step at all.
National Coming Out Day will continue to gain momentum in years to come.The United States has been moving in this direction for years.
Is it time to embrace those who stepping out into who he or she is?
All of our opinions will differ.
Today would not be the day to try and win that discussion.
I am sitting here wondering what my life would have like if I did come out.Memorial Day 2008 – the Monday after my cousin’s wedding.
A dirt road discussion.
Would I have imploded earlier if I did not try let go of my thoughts inside?
National Coming Out Day gives those who are questioning or knowing – A chance to know that there are safe spaces to surround themselves in.
A chance to not live in fear of others and the implosion that could happen.
National Coming Out Day gives those a chance to step out and talk.A new discussion of how this equates to their life and faith – if any at all.
A new vulnerability to work through the confusion that sits in their heads.
A new chance to do this with others and not within themselves…. alone.
I sit on the other side…. A transformation with the ability to look with a different perspective.I could not have gotten here, if I did not step into a place of vulnerability.
I could not have gotten here, if I was not able to confide in particular people.
National Coming Out Day may be an “okay” thing.Coming out is not an account of being “obnoxiously” proud -
But wondering if someone will help them walk through the process.
Will they still be able to call you friend, parent, sibling, cousin, grandparent?
Eventually, no matter what side someone eventually comes to —A partnership, celibacy or pursuing a heterosexual relationship.
Today is highly important in the pure transparency in the life they share with you.
Respect it. Help process it. Quick to listen. Slow…. very slow to speak.
The ones who I still talk to after coming out -
The ones who I called during the sexuality transformation.
Are the ones who did the things above.
The ones who shouted the loudest. Pointed to verses.Pushed the idea of dating to fix things.
Lacked in love, with more concern to change me.
And we don’t speak anymore.
A gentle spirit will draw another in. Bringing healing.
Today is the day to listen.
National Coming Out Day is not someone throwing their “gay” at you.
It’s wanting to know that you care.
And how will you?
At the end, will you still treat them as human…
Or a disease…
Or a project to be fixed?
I cannot provide all the answers.
I just know it’s harder than you think.
Maybe the one who shared eventually chooses a path you don’t agree with, but today just listen and continue to listen to their heart. Be Jesus. Be the Gospel.
I wouldn’t be sitting here pursuing the visions and dreams of having a wife.
If I didn’t have people walking with me in the beginning.